The human mind is extremely powerful. Your frame of mind, whether positive or negative, will impact the decisions you make, as well as the experiences you have.
When you focus on the positive, you’re doing yourself a favor. You’re actively nourishing your mind. However, when you choose to focus on the negative, you’re neglecting your mind and actually opening the door for more negativity. Umm, no thank you!
A positive person can have negative thoughts but chooses to find the good. But, a negative person lets negative thoughts control their actions and perception. The problem with this? Negativity will hold you back from being truly happy in the present and living the life you want. On top of that, a negative mind can prevent you from taking positive action. Leading you to remain stuck in negative patterns, like destructive self-talk or engaging in habits that can be toxic to your mind and soul.
For most of my 20s I was a negative person. I was told on occasion from family and exes how I was quick to anger and negative in particular situations. But, I didn’t think much of it and continued to live with a negative mindset.
When I hit my lowest point 2 years ago, I decided to do some soul searching. I was unhappy with my life and realized I wasn’t the person I wanted to be. At the time, I wasn’t walking with the Lord and looked online to find a solution, which led me to a YouTube video. After watching the video below and realizing how Carrie Green, the founder of the Female Entrepreneur Association, had changed her life using guided mediations, I decided to give it a try.
Filling my mind with positivity through guided mediations, as well as following specific accounts on social media for positive inspiration, led me to another golden nugget, the movie, “The Secret.”
After watching “The Secret,” I had a mini-epiphany. I realized that the energy that I was putting out in the world, was exactly what I’d been receiving. My negative thinking and attitude invited for more negativity into my life in the form of toxic relationships, situations, and habits. Everything began to make sense. I needed to change my perspective and nourish my mind with positivity to create the life I dreamed of.
It’s never too late to live the life you want. Every moment you have the opportunity to do things differently. When my mindset changed, so did my life. I want you to make your dreams a reality and know you can do that by nourishing your mind. Incorporate this top 5 list into your daily routine and watch the magic happen!
1. Remember Who You Are In Christ
When I began to read the Bible I nourished my mind with the truth and promises of the Lord. The Bible is a foundation for life and has so much wisdom.
Hold tight to these verses. Remember who you are in Christ, especially if you find yourself with negative thoughts about yourself or a situation.
Romans 12:2 Don’t copy the behavior or customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.
Romans 8:28 And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to His purpose for them.
2 Timothy 1:7 For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.
Ephesians 2:10 For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.
Joshua 1:9 Be strong and of good courage; do not be afraid, nor be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.
Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me.
2. Read Personal Development
Make an effort to listen, read, or watch some form of personal development content daily. Why? Personal development is positive and motivating. When you kick start your morning with encouragement, it’s likely to carry on throughout your day.
Personal development helps you become self-aware. It will make you question your current routine and habits. Is there something you can change? What can you do that will bring you closer to your goals or living a life of happiness? These are some basic questions that will help you develop self-awareness to make changes to your life. Once you become self-aware of negative habits your engaging in, you can improve your sense of direction and the course of your life.
When you read or listen to a personal development book, most author’s personal stories are sources of inspiration. So many successful people once lived unhappy and unfulfilled lives. Personal development teachers will show you how to remove negativity and bad habits from your life, so you can live with purpose and intention.
Click this link, My Fav Personal Development Resources, for a list of inspiring podcasts and books that have helped me on my personal development journey.
3. Practice Meditation
There are specific meditations that can help you rewire your brain. I believe that developing a gratitude mindset is one of the best ways to shift your thoughts to a more positive place.
If you’re a newb to meditation, start with guided sources that can be found in YouTube, Headspace, or Abide. YouTube has guided meditations for free that range from 3 minutes to over an hour. Ease your way into it by starting with a 3 to 5 minute meditation.
Before I made meditation a daily practice, I used to have a very entitled mentality. I wouldn’t stop to take in the beauty of life or realize how precious the little things are. Whether it’s running water, being able to attend school, having food in the fridge, or people in your life that you can count on. I would constantly take things for granted.
But, when I started listening to guided mediations on gratitude, it helped me develop awareness of the present. To take time and savor the little miracles of life.
Set aside some time in the morning or right before you go to bed to practice meditation. Life can get busy. Meditating allows you to be still and soak in the present, which is an easy way to start feeling grateful for your life.
4. Schedule a Therapy Session
If you’re looking to get your health on track you might seek the help of a nutritionist or personal trainer. So, if you’re trying to get your mind right and want to learn how to nourish it with positivity, wouldn’t you want to seek the help of a professional?
I know therapy can be a touchy subject. But, seeking the help of a psychologist can help you minimize negative thought patterns, negative habits, and work through any personal trauma that you’ve been storing up over the years.
There is no such thing as a perfect person. We all have room to grow. And honestly, one of the key elements of life is growing to become the best version of yourself.
A therapist knows exactly how to help you and support you. Because just like any other profession, they were trained and went to school to do exactly that!
I’ve been in and out of therapy since I was 6, which started with my parent’s divorce. I’ve become very comfortable with therapy, but also understand why some people avoid it all costs. “You want me to tell a stranger my deepest darkest secrets? Say what?!” Trust me, I get it. But, that fear doesn’t compare to the benefits that will come out of a good therapeutic relationship.
I always tell people that it’s important to find a therapist that you click with. Before going to your first session, chat with the therapist over the phone to get a feel for who they are and the techniques they plan on using to help you (i.e. meditation, worksheets, cognitive behavioral therapy). You can also google search your potential therapist. They might appear on a therapist website, like Psychology Today, that has reviews and also more information on the type of therapy they practice.
5. Practice Self-Love
When you love yourself, you are choosing to accept who you are. Not who you will be or who you were, but who you are in this moment. Flaws and all. Remember, you were made uniquely and are God’s handiwork (1 Peter 2:9).
I know firsthand that practicing self-love can be hard, especially on bad days. But, when you become aware of the negative self-talk you’re feeding your mind with, you can replace it with more loving and compassionate thoughts.
When a negative thought comes into your head about your appearance or who you are as a person, you can turn those thoughts around with a fact about yourself or use the word of God (head back to “1. Remember Who You Are in Christ” for verses to help you).
I’ve noticed that a negative thought will often follow when I compare my life or situation to someone else’s. If you can begin to build awareness when this happens, you may be able to stop yourself completely or remind yourself why its bogus to compare your life to someone else’s.
Write out a list of personal characteristics and things you’ve accomplished that you’re proud of. Essentially things that you like about yourself! This will help you see in black and white that your mind’s been playing tricks on you.